Monday, July 28, 2014

Love, Romance, Intimacy, Connection: Be the Real Deal to Attain it.



Everybody wants their sexual relationships to blossom with love and romance.  They all want this magic with the partner, but they don’t seem to know how to attain it.  Unless your relationship extends beyond the superficial, it cannot be special; it cannot be holy.  Intimacy requires a transparency between two people; It requires allowing someone to see the genuine love that resides within you.  Expressions of love through our actions and words are always what fuel any romance. 
Personal sin makes openness very hard to accomplish. Exposing our evil deeds to someone else always seems to kill the romance.  Close relationships are difficult to have when you have skeletons in your closet.  People don’t fully appreciate how much of a liability their sin can really be.  How it damages our personal relationships.  A husband may think He can look at another woman.  He may think He won’t get caught; perhaps his wife does not catch him.  Regardless, a woman will always notice if her husband’s attention is not on her.  If his heart is somewhere else, she will know it.  How does a man foster the romance with his wife if his heart really lies somewhere else?  How does lusting after another woman kindle the fire He should have with his wife?  A Husband won’t have to find that aphrodisiac or clever gesture if he really loves his wife from his heart.   His feelings for her will always work for him; they will always leave their pervading scent for her to catch.  He does not have to manufacture any gestures; He does not have to fake it.  Trying to feign something you don’t have will always be discovered in time.  Real love requires a singleness of mind; a state of perfection free of any impurities.  It always requires a character with integrity.  How does a wife expect to achieve intimacy apart from integrity?  How can she emotionally connect with her husband when only bitterness lies within her heart?  How does simply putting on the charm achieve a feeling of closeness?  How does venting only bitterness draw your husband toward you? It’s the heart that must be reformed before relationships can blossom.  You can’t just do things for appearances sake.  How can you say He really loves you, when He cannot see the real you?  How can you love someone when your heart is somewhere else?  A person only treasures that which they first place their heart into.  If you want your relationships to be special (to be holy), a person has to clean up their act.   They have to be transparent and their openness has to reveal a singleness of heart.  This is what purity is all about.    Purity of Heart sets the standard for making any relationship special.  You cannot hold back. Your deeds will always prove your heart out in the end.  Your love has to be the real deal.   Your relationships are only as good as the heart you put into it.  Reform your heart and your relationships will follow suit.  Only God’s Spirit can wash away sins and make a heart new.  He does this through his Word.  You only have to be willing.

Related Links
Why Should I avoid Sexual Immorality?
Sexual Temptation:why fight the feeling? 
Lust & Love, the Contrasts Defined
Nudity, Foreplay, Sex: Only in the Marriage Bed they make Love
Holy Matrimony: Why Something Special can be so Sexy
Relations, Rapport, Peer Pressure: Greatness begins with a Willingness to Stand Apart

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