To regard someone as sexy, we normally imply that this
person is highly appealing and attractive to us. We see them and our hormones are
aroused. People want to be in
relationships with someone who stir this kind of affection. To
attract someone special, we place a great deal of emphasis on things that make
ourselves special. Women pursue beauty and fashion attempting to be noticed. Men will pursue careers and greatness
attempting to garner the esteem of all those around him. All of these pursuits are really only
people’s attempts to be someone special, to be Holy. Whether we were aware of it or not, all
people really have this desire. We just
mistook it for something else. God always
intended for us to both desire and become holy.
For He said, “Be Holy, for I am Holy.”
Now Holiness, as most understand it, is not a terribly appealing thing
for people. The main culprit for this idea lies behind the
thinking that personal fulfillment is somehow a bad thing. If holiness only
served to vanquish our personal desire, then nobody would really want it. Passionate people feel the ache when their personal
needs go unsatisfied; they don’t relish this feeling. So they equate holiness
with death. Many
religious people hold this same perspective.
They ask the question, ‘How do I make these feelings go away?” They too want the pain to go away. But killing what you feel will only make you
less happy. Doing this will only make
you an old disgruntled parishioner with a scowl on your face. This is not the Biblical concept of holiness. Scripture never sets out to quench desire,
but rather guides it to where true satisfaction lies. Holiness describes something as sacred or
special; it is to be regarded with particular favor or affection. It means to possess unique traits that are
venerable and awe inspiring. We use this
to describe what God and his ways are really like- a cut above the rest. Why
go for anything less than the best? Of
course, you have to want it before you will pursue it. The desire only comes with first appreciating
what it can really do to make you happy.
Seeing the personal rewards become your inner driving force for change.
People are not villains for desiring the
opposite sex and what they have to offer.
Our problems arise when we think only of ourselves; we desire too
little. Selfish people value others for
only what they have to offer them. To
them, others are only a means to an end.
They sin because they restrict their passions to a few crumbs and employ
immoral means to get it. If what you are
chasing does not really satisfy, wouldn’t you be interested in hearing a better
alternative? Looking to greener pastures
or the next best thing should really tell you something about yourself; what
you hunger for is something different all together. What is this alternative? Learn to love someone as much as you love
yourself. Broaden your passions to
include someone else. When you truly
love someone else, fulfilling their desires becomes your desire also. Love does for another because they want to,
not because they have to. It’s done out of mercy and not sacrifice. Why is God not tempted by Sexual
Immorality? The short summary reason is
because He loves. God’s Spirit is love
personified. So He tells people to love
in the same manner in which He does. If
you really love your spouse like God does, you will not be tempted either. Scripture tell us that a spouse can become a
fountain of fulfillment, if we want it. We
have only to tap into this source. Only genuine love breeds love within the heart for a manifold return. Genuine
love will bring out the best in your spouse.
Loving someone in this manner will unlock all of this for you. When you understand this, you will catch the
fever for it too. Our passions are
always shaped first by our thoughts. Make
love in your marriage and it will become truly holy. Make your relationship sacred and you will
find it very sexy. I will elaborate more
on the elements of doing this in other posts.Related Links
Why Should I avoid Sexual Immorality?
Sexual Temptation:why fight the feeling?
Lust & Love, the Contrasts Defined
How to Fix your Marriage- The Biblical Way
Nudity, Foreplay, Sex: Only in the Marriage Bed they make Love
Divorce-Biblical Guidelines for when it's permitted
Adultery, Fornication: Outside the Marriage Bed you only get Screwed
Flirtation, Seduction, & Innuendo: Only a Fool's Errand
Relations, Rapport, Peer Pressure: Greatness begins with a Willingness to Stand Apart
Love, Romance, Intimacy, Connection: Be the Real Deal to get it
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