Promiscuity, Orgies, & Polygamy: Only Raise Costs, not Benefits

Many men fantasize about having multiple partners. Culture has taught them that two or more is always better than one. As the old spearmint ad would say ‘double the pleasure and double the fun.’    Radical Islam promises it’s proselytes that they can inherit seventy virgins in heaven if they die as a martyr.  So many young men sign up to do just that in our world.  This very fantasy compelled several of them to drive planes into the world trade center.  Could marrying seventy real women in the afterlife really be considered a state of bliss?   Would they really all play nice together and only make it their aim to bring one man his pleasure?  I don’t think the real math works out like that.

  Every real woman wants to feel loved and that requires exclusivity.  Pay the cost and she will make you happy.  Don’t pay it and she will make you miserable. So it’s to a man’s own benefit that He loves his wife.  The polygamist can only make love to one woman at a time.  While loving one, the rest have to sit back and watch.  No woman wants to endure watching her husband love someone else.  And If momma ain’t happy, then nobody will be.   Solomon spoke from experience having married 700 wives and 300 concubines.  He spoke as if living on a small corner of your roof in peace was better than dealing with the contentions of a quarrelsome wife; they can get that way when they are not loved properly.  When such contentions arise, any benefit a man might have with his wife simply disappears.  Of course, the costs associated with feeding them do not.  So multiplying partners only multiplies the costs and it can very well eliminate the benefits at the same time.  Who would call that a heavenly state of bliss?  This math never occurs to most men.   I am sure this inspired some of Solomon’s views on the vanity of life.  Fidelity to one woman not only makes her happy but is really in the husband’s best interest.  The cost to benefit ratio really prove this out.

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