Why do people indulge in pornography or erotica and
masturbate to it? The answers should be obvious to most people. Reality does
not seem to give them the gratification they crave, so they look to fantasy to
do it for them. Images never put any restrictions on you like real people would. They provide complete access to anything you want, however you want, and whenever you want, without reservation. With images, forming relational bonds become unnecessary leaving people free to focus on simply fulfilling their own pleasures. And it appears they can do this without the risks of entanglement or consequence to them and nobody appears to get hurt in the process. Scripture tells us these images never really deliver on all these promises.
Sexual intimacy between a husband and wife was never
intended by God to be a spectator sport.
Far from satisfying your needs, sitting on the sidelines watching other
people have sex will only intensify your desire, arouse your jealousy, and make
you covet what other people appear to have.
People need to remember that scratching the itch with porn or erotica
can never alleviate the craving, it only intensifies the itch further. Masturbation may appear to be a quick fix
to it all, but the reality always surfaces that the dream has passed you by and
will leave you with a feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction at the end of
the day.
Far from being safe, all of this internal frustration
brewing within the heart of an individual can spill over into the real world
and create many unforeseen consequences. Many of which can inflict a great deal
of harm. For men, the overexposure to porn makes it difficult for them not to
objectify real women in general. The
over stimulation can make them wolves desperate and impatient to re-enact such
fantasies. This can only alter their
relationships with real women who will always notice the drool coming out of
their mouths before they do. If He happens to be in a relationship, the
myriad of images make it harder for him to appreciate and love his real
spouse. Regardless of whether she is
aware of his infidelities or not, His diverted attention away from her will always
be noticed and make it harder for him to physically connect with her. For women, the overexposure to romance novels
and erotica create unrealistic expectations.
The obsession makes it difficult for them not to project such fantasies
on to real men. If she happens to be in
a relationship, all the comparisons she makes of her partner with these images
always disappoints her. Obsessing over
all the shortcomings make emotionally connecting with him difficult. Actually attempting to act out some of these
desires lead to a whole host of other unintended consequences I will save for
later posts.
While Fantasy appears to take less effort and time than
relating to a spouse, nothing really compares with having the real thing. Who else can really validate your manhood
like a real woman? Who else can truly
affirm your beauty as a woman like a real man?
Most people find admitting to others that they watch porn, read erotica,
or even masturbate is a bit embarrassing.
Because resorting to such activities always reflects an ineptness,
impotence, or even an inability on their part to relate to others. This will always leave you feeling as less of
a man or a woman. So if Porn or Erotica
can never really satisfy you in these ways and can only create problems with
lasting consequences, why indulge in it in the first place? God has a better way of doing it and the
reward is always worth the effort. Related Links:
Why Should I avoid Sexual Immorality?
Voyeurism, Peeping, Staring: Not only Breeds Envy but Shame
Women in the Sex Industry: Should Pity, Not Envy
Why Porn can't Spice up your Sex Life: Life imitates Art
Promiscuity, Orgies, & Polygamy: Only Raise Costs not Benefits
Immodesty, Public Nudity, Exhibition: also exposes loose Morals
Flirtation, Seduction, & Innuendo: Only a Fool's Errand
Adultery & Fornication: Outside the Marriage Bed you only get Screwed
Rape, Sexual Violence, & Abuse: Why Brute Force it when there is a better way?
Prostitution, Harlotry: You cannot buy Real Love
Masturbation: What can be more Selfish?
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