Fornication, Casual Sex-Why people do well to avoid it

God is not against Sex, but He is against Sexual immorality

If God made sex and called it good, then many people wonder what is wrong with two consenting adults simply being allowed to have sex together outside of marriage? God is not against sex, but He is against sexual immorality. Marriage is honorable among all, and the marriage bed is undefiled (Hebrew 13:4). The marriage couple can be naked together and not ashamed. Why? In marriage, a committed man and woman can make love when they consummate. Their commitment to each other demonstrates this love and ensures each partner’s fulfillment. God made sex a good thing and always intended to have it foster love between two people. On the other hand, Scripture labels any and all consentual sexual activity outside the marriage bed as fornication. People fornicate because they desire to reap the benefits of a sexual relationship without having to pay for any of it's costs. People who shack up together outside of marriage are only in it for when the times are good; don't expect them to stick around when times become difficult or bad. Fornicators lack commitment, because they do not really love their partner. To fornicators, relationships are meant to be broken; for this reason, God will judge the fornicator (Heb 13:4). Ultimately, People cannot expect to find sexual fulfillment from a partner who is not committed to meeting their needs. Such relations breed resentment rather than love. There are good reasons for avoiding this type of sexual immorality.

Don't expect to find love with a fornicator, expect to get screwed.

People need to understand that there is no love to be had in Fornication of any kind-without exception. Their lack of commitment proves they do not love. Don't expect to find love with a fornicator, only expect to get screwed. People can know this with certainty by simply observing what fornicators actually do. A man seeking a sexual relationship with a woman outside of marriage is only out to serve himself. A man taking a woman out on a one night stand is always looking to get something for nothing; he cares nothing for the woman He seduces. A man does not love a woman he humps and then dumps. Fornicators would like to make people think otherwise; they will refer to their relationships as 'friends with benefits.' People need to understand that fornicators don't have friends they only have self-interests. They would feign love where there is none simply because it serves their own interests. A man knows he cannot con a woman into bed unless she first thinks He loves her. So a man willingly tells her what she wants to hear. Such deceit is immoral. Someone is not really your friend or lover when they are only out to use you. If a person hopes to have a fulfilling loving relationship, one cannot partner with people only wanting to fornicate.

Fornicators don’t have friends with benefits, they only have self interests.

Fornicators always reduce the love relationship to a simple business transaction. In fact, the Greek word for fornication in the Bible is porne; we get the word pornography from such a word. The Greek word porne refers to any sexual favors offered in exchange for some price. This means there is always a catch. Scripture has good reasons for labeling all sexual activity outside marriage as fornication. Seeing this becomes easy when a person realizes such business transactions do not always have to involve the direct transfer of money. Trades made can be as simple as a favor for a favor. A woman may choose to have sex with a man in exchange for showing her a good time and being taken out to dinner and a movie. An escort may simply offer a man a great deal of flirting and attention in exchange for having their expenses paid. A woman may simply decide to give a man a free peep show by dressing immodestly in exchange for a little bit of attention. If a person thinks about it, all these examples are just varying degrees of whoredom; some form of sexual favor offered in exchange for a benefit. Only fornicators are not as honest with themselves or others about this game as street prostitutes are. A good spouse cares and is committed to meeting the needs of their partner. A fornicator, on the other hand, is only out to rip someone off by taking advantage of their sexual desires. Can it really be love when you have to pay someone for it? It’s hard to find lasting fulfillment from someone trying to take you for a ride. Gold diggers are just that, opportunists digging for someone's gold. Don’t expect them to stick around when the money is all gone. If a person does not wish to be exploited, stay away from fornication all together.

Realize relationships are what you make of them

Real sexual fulfillment and love only comes from a partner that first of all loves you and is committed to meeting your needs. Only real love brings sexual fulfillment to the table. God instructs people to avoid fornication not to hamper their sex life but in order that they might be blessed. A person will always do well to avoid sexual immorality (Acts 15:29). Doing well begins with avoiding scams, traps, and pitfalls that come in relationships with bad people. People avoid this by doing two simple things. The first has to do with finding the right partner; restrict your sexual relations to one morally outstanding and God-fearing partner. Character matters because commitment to meeting the needs of each other always comes down to character. The second has to do with having an outstanding moral character yourself. One cannot build a moral relationship with someone without first being moral themselves. One cannot expect to get from someone what they are not first prepared to do for them. A person cannot inspire someone to love them when they themselves are half-hearted. If you want someone to love you, first be loving. If you want someone to be good to you, be good to them. If you want someone to be committed to you, be committed to them. Making love requires building a relationship of trust and commitment. Real Love always perseveres and is committed to seeing a relationship through to the very end. Love never fails (I Cor 13:8). Realize if it fails, it was never really love to begin with.