Hormonal Attraction is not the same thing as loving a woman.
Men are visual creatures. What this means is that one of man’s primary sex organs is his eyeballs; his biological urges can be aroused just by seeing an attractive woman. Eye candy can be a highly pleasurable narcotic for a man. People often mistake these hormonal impulses for love. The outward beauty of the opposite sex brings a man pleasure and experiencing that pleasure is often all they really care about. Thinking only of one's personal gratification is a very selfish thing. Just having hormones for a beautiful woman is not really the same thing as loving her. A loving man would care as much about a woman's feelings, well-being, and desires as He does his own. When men stare at a beautiful woman, they do it for their own personal pleasure.
Feasting your eyes on Forbidden recipe for frustration not satisfaction.
Many men believe there is no harm in appreciating a woman's beauty. They will say 'I can look as long as I don't touch. Staring at a woman for sexual gratification may feel good for a moment but it will always leaves a man hungry for more. The eye never has it's fill of seeing. Wandering eyes are never content with what they have. Sexual passions are like a fire- a fire that never says enough. Stoke the fire and ones hormones will only become enflamed. A man is never going to be satisfied with just looking. He will eventually want to touch the woman He is staring at. Only a committed loving wife is prepared to satisfy such a fire. Anything less than this is simply a tease. This is why the only proper outlet for indulging in ones hormones is within the marital relationship. The man with wandering eyes only tortures himself with temptation.
Immoral means to gratify one's hormonal impulses is always wrong.
God is not against hormones and sex; He made them. God is against evil and harming others. Attempting to achieve sexual gratification at the expense and harm of another is an immoral act; not because personal gratification is forbidden, but because cheating someone in the process of getting it is wrong. Looking at other women certainly cheats your wife from the attention she desires and such actions will always hurts her feelings. A man is not being thoughtful and loving when He does this. Of course, a man only hurts himself when He hurts his wife. As said previously, looking at other women will not provide a man any lasting fulfillment. The hurt wife will only make you sleep on the couch. For such reasons, a man will always do well if He avoids immoral means to satisfy his hormonal impulses.
A man do not see how He loses because of his focus.
If a man fails to control his hormones, his own hormones will get the best of him. A man with out-of-control hormones can really only focus well of one thing- fulfilling his own sexual needs. As a man takes in visual stimulation, these hormonal pressures only build. These pent-up feelings change the way a man perceives women. He will no longer see women as people but as objects for sexual gratification. It's hard to relate with someone if you only see them as a piece of meat. A man cannot focus well on a woman's feelings when He is mentally obsessed with her outward beauty. Sex obsessed men pay little attention to a woman’s feelings and thoughts. Treating a woman as a mere sex object is not going to win any hearts. Try to chase them out of desperation and you will only scare them off. Objectifying women actually impairs a man's ability to relate with them; this dysfunction will bar a man from achieving the relations He desires. There are appropriate times and places for indulging in one's hormones and there are inappropriate times. Self Restraint is what keeps a man's hormones from getting out of control.
The man with wandering eyes will fall for the Boobie Trap every time
A man with wandering eyes is not controlling his hormones. Uncontrolled hormones leave a man vulnerable to exploitation. If all a man cares about is a pretty face, then He will pay little attention to anything else about a woman. This behavior makes them susceptible to like minded immoral women. Finding a woman with noble characteristics becomes impossible if your focus is entirely on the female body. A virtuous Godly woman will not wish to be treated like a piece of meat and through modesty will hide herself from the shallow man. Of course, there are many heartless shallow women in the world with a beauty that is only skin deep. They are lovely on the outside and atrocious on the inside. Such women know that showing a man her true colors would leave a bitter taste in his mouth. To hide this fact, shallow women are quite content to let their body do all of the talking. These women will dangle their bodies as bait in front of men knowing them to be suckers for a pretty face. Hypnotized by a woman's body, the shallow man will be oblivious to her character or the trap she is setting. Finding a woman of noble character becomes impossible if a man simply falls for every boobie trap set before him. The man who pleases God will always escape such women, but the sinner she will always ensnare (Ecc 7:26).
Allow the wrong woman to light your fire and you will get burned.
Relationships that are not based on genuine love are doomed from the start. If a man is going to do well, He must keep himself from immoral women. Self-control and Restraint are what actually protect men from these pitfalls. To effectively filter out such women, He must not allow their beauty to seduce him in the process. Having a clear head is needed to see the heart of any woman. Why does a woman's character matter? because Character always shapes a person's motives and intentions. A good woman will do a man good and not evil all the days of his life. An immoral woman will forsake her companion and her covenants. Promises of fulfillment are only as good as the character behind the one who gives it. If you allow the wrong woman's beauty to light your fire, you are setting yourself up to get burned. Immoral women do not care for a man's feelings; they have no interest in fulfilling his passions but only in taking advantage of them. Would you really want to be brought under the power of a woman who did not care for you and have your best interests at heart? Men should be cautious who they tango with, they may come to regret it later.
Think with your Head and not just your hormones.
To avoid becoming a sucker for a pretty face, a man must learn to think with his head and not just his hormones. A man does this by putting God and his commands first in his life above all else. Men may not control how women dress, but they do control their own eyes. If a man takes responsibility for what He looks at, He will take ownership over his hormones. In controlling his own urges, He will not get burned by the wrong types of women. Immoral women will not be able to manipulate him. He will remain faithful to his wife whose happiness will only make him further happy. In being able to love and relate with his wife, a man will find deeper levels of affection with her than He ever knew before. Allow God to guide your passions. In doing so, a man will not only save his life but enrich it.
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