Why do people believe in love at first sight? A person cannot really know someone seeing
them for the first time. A person can’t
really say they love someone when they don’t even know them. Nevertheless, people have these feelings all
the same. Does it not come down to
their mindset? Our frame of thinking
always determines whether we are aroused or not. When it comes to strangers, everything is left to the imagination. Any feelings someone has for a stranger is
always based on an over active imagination.
Fantasizing about someone can certainly get a person’s heart
racing. People need to remember though
that none of those thoughts are real.
Dreamers think they love someone because they fail to distinguish
between reality and the fantasy in their head. People are in for rude awakenings if they make decisions
solely based on fantasies.Seeing someone as pretty is not the same as loving them.
Many men see a pretty woman for the first time and they
think it is love. Every man has a
picture of the ideal woman in his head.
If a woman looks the part, a man will think he has met the woman of his
dreams. Of course, seeing someone as
pretty is not the same as loving them.
Such men do not really see the woman for who she is. She could be a total airhead or a very mean
shrew. These details will often go
unnoticed; dreamers don’t wish to be confused with facts. The less she actually says, the better. Opening her mouth may only ruin it for
him. Reality has a harsh way of waking
men up from their dreams. Every woman
has a personality and a man will always get to know it in time. Only after getting to know a woman, can a
man honestly say he loves her.
Know the difference between a real and fantasized persona
Women can be just as guilty as men for judging a book by
it’s cover. Many women have a thing for
a man in uniform. A fine dressed man
can make her heart go pitter patter (Ezek 23:5). When asked, women will often say such a man looks put together;
he is clean cut; he has a job; he has his life in order; he knows what he
wants; he makes things happen; he works for what he wants; he chases what he
wants. It is funny how a woman can perceive all these things from just an
outfit. A lifetime of reading harlequin,
romance, and erotic novels has ingrained this picture into her head. A man in uniform chasing his beloved down to
express his heartfelt emotion is the storybook ending for many chic flick
movies. Many women simply dream about
living out such a romance. When men
dress the part, they are simply role-playing out that fantasy. Women do not
always realize they project those feelings on to certain men. They don’t realize the image in her head is
not always real. Every man has a real
personality and a woman will always get to know it in time. Only after getting to know a man, can a
woman honestly say she loves him.
Finding real love requires one first be realistic.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a beautiful woman. There is nothing wrong with wanting to find
a romantic man. Finding the real thing
does require one to be realistic.
The culture says love is blind precisely because people do
not see things for what they are.
Changing this starts with being objective and being honest with
oneself. It begins by allowing God’s
truth to shed light on things. It
starts with the understanding that there is no such thing as love at first
sight.
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