Wisdom should keep everyone from
adultery. Real love can never really be
found with a cheat. Many adulterers and
adulteresses may feign love and promise satisfaction, but all their overtures
are really driven by self-interest. Understanding
where the road leads when it comes to extramarital affairs is critical for
making good decisions at the outset. So
lets spell out the consequences:
Reason 1: An extramarital affair will always leave a bitter taste in your mouth.
Anticipating a person’s course of action always begins with
first understanding their motives. There
are lots of reasons why people cheat.
None of which are good for you. The
adulteress may feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored from her husband. Some Men may feel undersexed or
disrespected. Such feelings usually
bring the worst out in them. The Bible
calls these people bitter and bitter people never make good lovers. If they are not happy, rest assured you will
not be happy with them. Do you really want to inherit all this emotional
baggage? Can someone with a void to fill
really fulfill your needs the way you want?
If a spouse cannot keep them from being restless and bored, what makes
you think you will do a better job? If their demands are greater than one person
to fill, how will you alone make them happy?
If their expectations are unrealistic, how do you really expect to
satisfy them? They may prefer the
intensity that comes with a new fresh relationship over developing intimacy
with an old familiar partner. I would
not let that preference go to your head.
Every relationship turns old in time. You would only be next on the
chopping block. If they are avoiding intimacy, they won’t be
close with you either. If they are seeking variety, it’s only a matter of time
before they look again for something new.
If self-gratification is what drives them, then loving you will not
really be their focus. If they are only
seeking an escape from their problem, will they not bail out on you when it
gets too tough? Do they really love you
if they only sleep with you to get back at their partner? Do you really want to
play second fiddle to a spouse? If a
spouse stays away from a cheat, did it ever occur to you there may be a good
reason for it? If they have one vice
(adultery) they may likely have more. If
they just can’t get enough sex, what makes you think they will be satisfied
with you? If they just lack will power
what keeps you from losing them as well? If they have cheated once with you, the
precedent is set to cheat again. All of
these reasons can make Life with a cheat very unpleasant and painful. In the end, they would leave you with a bad
taste in your mouth. It’s not a matter
of if, only when. So why start the game?
Reason 2: No honor can be found among thieves.
You cannot build genuine love and intimacy with someone who
cannot be trusted. Witnessing the very
intent for infidelity alone should be a red flag to anyone. It reveals the true nature of a person before an
affair even starts. Do not ignore this warning sign. Scripture says that the adulteress is a two
edged sword. In other words, she will
cut both ways. Bitter women are not
selective in the men they hate. To them,
you are all the same. If she hates her
husband, she will hate you. Feeling sorry for oneself can make a person very
selfish. Unrealistic expectations may
even make her feel justified in hurting him. If she has no regard for her husband, she will
have no regard for you. How she treats
him, she will treat you. Cats don’t
change their stripes; people rarely reform their character. If a man cannot be
faithful to his wife, what makes you think He will be faithful to you? If they lack real intimacy with their loyal spouse,
what makes you think they will establish trust with another cheat? There is no
honor among thieves. If they demonstrate
themselves to be disloyal with a spouse, what makes you think they will be
loyal to you? Do not do business with a
cheat and you will not be cheated. Try
to Manipulate and you will be manipulated.
Exploit and you will be exploited.
People need to understand that doing the right thing is not just good
for everyone else. Righteousness will
also protect you from harm if you follow it.
Reason 3: Adulterers
have a death wish and will make your life a living hell.
The very same self-centered lust that starts an affair is
usually what destroys it in the end. Relationships
based on lust rather than love does not last.
You have a death wish if you
enter into a relationship with someone that cannot be trusted. True character can always be identified by
deeds. You cannot be satisfied without
real love. You cannot foster real love
without someone treating you right. Heed
the red flags. Hurting people like to
hurt people. Either they will vent their
aggravation out on you because you represent the opposite sex or they will use
you to get back at their spouse. They
may very well derive pleasure from seeing their partner’s jealousy aroused;
from seeing them kick your butt for cheating with them. Would you really only want to be a means to that
end? The Affair can only be unstable at
best. It will waste your time and money.
It will make you lose your dignity and respect.
Betrayal causes immense pain; a pain that will make it hard for you to
see straight. Adultery will make your
life a living hell in the end. Look for
trouble and you will find it. It will
ruin you if you pursue it. So don’t make
sex your God. Do not let your hormones
trump doing what is right. Good guys may
finish last but God always allows them to finish on top. Keeping God’s commandments will keep you from
such trouble.
Appeal 1: Don’t be a sucker for lip service or a pretty
face.
Of course, the trajectory every affair takes is never apparent
to people only looking at the surface of things. The adulterer/adulteress will never outline their
motives for you as I have done. They will try to convince you otherwise. They are never what they seem to be. They want your heart in their hand. The only way to get you to do what they want
is to make you want to do it. So their
aim will be to get under your skin using sex and flattery. They need to capture your heart to take
advantage of you. So they will tell you
what you want to hear. The adulterer
will tell you how much he loves you over his spouse. She will tell you how special you are to
her. The Bible says the adulteress is a
sweet talker; she is a smooth talker.
All Charm is deceptive and is not what it seems. They do this with the
motive to prey upon your life; to profit at your expense. So don’t let it go to your head. Don’t buy into the pick-up lines; they are
just words anybody can say. They are words adulterers know you may fall for;
words you will emotionally want to be true.
Do not fall for lip service.
Don’t be a sucker for a pretty face.
You can always tell what they really think by observing what they
do. Actions should speak louder to you
than words. If they will break faith with their spouse to get what they want,
they will apply the same strategy with you. Situational awareness should keep
you from being tempted by the allurement.
Everyone has hormones. You want
to safeguard these feelings from people who would try to manipulate them. This is why the Bible says to flee from
sexual immorality. Run before your hormones
get the best of you and blind you to the circumstances. Run while you are ahead of the game. Staying away from cheats altogether is the
best possible way to insulate oneself from being aroused or tempted. Linger with such people and you will only make
it hard on yourself. Play with fire and
you will eventually get burned.
Reason 4: There is always a better way
There is no need to lust after the adulterer or the
adulteress. What do people really seek after in an affair anyway? Is it not to find someone who will meet all
your sexual needs? Is it not to find
someone who accepts you for who you really are?
Is it not to have the freedom to love and be loved at a stress free pace
without pressure or strings attached? Only
a committed loving partner will do this.
Is not a Godly marriage supposed to do this? If they are and you don’t have this, why not
direct your energy into fixing your relationship with that person? Cultivate your own garden and it will bear
the desired fruit. Attend to who you have,
take care of them, and you will have the relationship you crave. Why
seek out the counterfeit instead? Why
subject yourself to those who would only feign such feelings to exploit
you? Why allow someone to just play with
your heartstrings only to ruin what you have?
If you are single, please know there are plenty of fish in the sea. Why not strive for the real deal? Trust in the Lord and He will give you the
desires of your heart. He can place you
in a relationship with someone who will seek your good and not your harm. God’s ways are always the highest ways.
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Divorce-Biblical Guidelines for when it's permitted
Pornography & Erotica: Only Breed Envy
Masturbation: What can be more Selfish?
Why Porn can't Spice up your Sex Life: Life imitates Art
Promiscuity, Orgies, & Polygamy: Only Raise Costs not Benefits
Flirtation, Seduction, & Innuendo: Only a Fool's Errand
Voyeurism, Peeping, Staring: Not only Breeds Envy but Shame
Sexually Transmitted Diseases: Do you have to learn the Hard Way?
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